There’s No Mistakes. Just Experience

Size: 61 x 76 cm

Medium: Mixed Media on Canvas

Year of work: 2025

I am not entirely sure whether my family of origin was negatively influencing me, I used to feel very anxious about my divorce experience. My parents kept telling me that such happening was a stain on my life, and emphasized “You have failed in your entire life” by saying it every single day.

I talked to my friends about it, but then unfortunately it became their entertainment i.e. they gossiped about me and took it as a joke, just way out of my expectation.

So, I decided to face it directly instead of giving people opportunity to catch me in my weakness! I took the initiative to let people know that I was divorced through social media. Surprisingly, I received lots of support from many true friends; and the so-called friends and gossips ended up disappearing from time to time.

I was really devastated about the divorce indeed, but I believed that I had made the right decision without regret.

In retrospect, I published the following statement:

If I’d become more mature after divorce

If I’d become a lot prettier after divorce

If I’d become a better me after divorce

Now, all these have become facts…

After leaving him, I began to focus on nurturing myself in many ways,

I learn wine tasting;

I pick up cigars knowledge;

I practice hard to build my abs;

I work hard on my job;

I do a lot of paintings;

I participate in art exhibitions and get them published on well-known art magazines;

I just work hard and study hard.

I'm living the life to the fullest that I've always pursued.

I fully understand that I don’t have to be ashamed of the sad experiences, even if they are like scars stored in my heart, like the lines in this painting, they are just experiences in life….

These experiences have developed who I am today; and they developed the ideal me, and the better me.

The gold and other dazzling colors in the painting show my great hopes towards my future life.

My heart might be full of scars; I am still shining, I am still dazzling.

或許受原生家庭影響，一直對於自己離過婚的經歷很介意。不斷被父母說成是人生的污點，天天告訴我：「你整個人生都很失敗。」

與好友傾訴，卻後來被當成別人茶餘飯後的八卦，取笑。

不想被別人抓住軟肋便面對吧！

後來我主動公開了自己離婚的事實，換來許多真正朋友的鼓勵與支持。

那些所謂的好友，沒辦法再抓住你的軟肋取笑，八卦也慢慢消失了。

是的，離婚雖然傷心，但我沒有後悔當日的這個決定

回望當日公開的文章內容寫過：

如果離婚後的我，變成熟了

如果離婚後的我，變更漂亮了

如果離婚後的我，更進步了

現今，這些成為了事實⋯

彼此放手後，我開始專注培養自己。

學品酒，學雪茄，努力健身練馬甲線。

努力工作，畫畫，參加畫展更獲得知名藝術雜誌報導。

努力向上，努力學習。

我過上了自己一直追求的生活。

所以，就算那些曾經傷心的經歷猶如心中的傷疤，就是畫中那些一道道的疤痕，都不必為此感到羞恥。 這些不過是人生當中的一些經歷罷了⋯⋯

這些經歷成就了如今的你，那個你理想中的自己，更美好的自己。

如同畫中那些金色和其他璀璨的色彩，對未來的生活，對生命的期盼，縱使心中刻滿傷痕，我仍然金光閃閃，奪目耀眼。